How to tell a woman your also dating other people

A lot of guys feel guilty when they go out in the dating scene because they don't know what to tell a woman when they're dating more than one. What they don't know is, most women who are "just dating" actually expect that--and welcome it--because they're sick and tired of guys who think they're "the one" after one or two meetings.

Still, though, it is a good question--how should you deal with it when a woman your dating asks you? Here's the email that sparked it, and my answer below.

"John,

I do all right with women and the dating scene, but could always do better. What I am saying is that I am no where near desperate like many who contact you.

My question has to do with how to handle success. What do you tell women about other women if you date more than one? I don't wish to be a boor and brag about other women. And I am not whether dropping hints about other women will be a turn-off or turn on.

Will women think "he has plenty of women - he must be hot" or "he is a real "player" I had better be careful?"

How to tell her you are dating other people

But I invariably get asked by women "how was your weekend?" I always wonder if I should say "I had dates with someone else besides you on Friday and Saturday" or something vague like "OK - but nothing big." I do not want to lie and it is possible a woman will find out about the other dates anyway and think I am being dishonest.

Another John

JA: Thanks for the email, John. Actually, you'd be surprised by the lack of desperation by most guys on my list. Most are already on the path to success, and just want to discover how to become more so.

Women intuitively know when you're a guy who's good with women, and for the most part, assume you're available to others, up until the point you and her decided to see only each other. There's no reason to brag or boast about what you do, or even mention it. If you do so as an effort to make her jealous, it will back fire because you're relying on external circumstances to create attraction, not internally generated behavior. But you shouldn't hide it either.

If you're asked, be truthful--but in a fun, naughty manner--"yep, I had a few naughty girls compete for my attention this weekend--they did OK. Room for improvement, though." Then just smile and move on. If you're a guy who's good with women, you're just describing your reality, much as other guys would describe going to a movie.

It's just no big deal to you. Don't boast about it, don't hide it, just treat it as a normal circumstance, which it should be. The truth is, she's probably seeing other guys too. When it's time to date, it's time to date, and when it's time to commit, it's time to commit. It's not a good idea to hide anything in either circumstance.

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